Developing friendships through intimacy and self disclosure. As the antecedents of self disclosure, the study included the need for affiliation and the motivations for relationship maintenance and initiation. Selfdisclosure is an act of intimacy and serves as a maintenance strategy, and yet very little prior research has examined selfdisclosure within relationships with data collected multiple times. The information can be descriptive or evaluative, and can include thoughts, feelings, aspirations, goals, failures, successes, fears, and dreams, as well as ones likes, dislikes, and favorites. Communication, intimacy, and close relationships 1st edition. Self disclosure is not always a risky or vulnerable action. Although level of self disclosure and personal relationships are not synonymous concepts, self disclosure plays an important role in constructing what kind of relationships individuals have with each another. Culture and sexual self disclosure in intimate relationships sexual self disclosure is one of the most intimate forms of self disclosure.
Journal of social and clinical psychology, 23, 857877. For example, two people who have recently met and are willing to start a relationship, either for friendship or. Jun, 2012 psychologists have long known that self disclosure is one of the hallmarks of intimate relationships. Culture and sexual selfdisclosure in intimate relationships.
Based on what i got from the article it says that selfdisclosure is very important in a happy marriage or relationship. Psychologists have long known that selfdisclosure is one of the hallmarks of intimate relationships. This response, allows the person who is disclosing the information to feel understood and more valued. Self disclosure is sometimes used to maintain the integrity of a relationship. Selfdisclosure project gutenberg selfpublishing ebooks. Romantic relationships are sometimes very tricky because of this. This is generally a good definition but lacks in that it does not exclude situations or instances. Anonymity is known to increase selfdisclosure, both in of. Aug 31, 2011 self disclosure is a necessary part of getting close to another person.
Caliguire in another section of the book talks about matching. Comprised of seven chapters, this book begins with a discussion on the role of selfdisclosure in intimate relationships as well as the risks that individuals incur. Oct 26, 2016 immediacy is a form of self disclosure that can facilitate the helping relationship. Mirra komarovsky, a sociologist, presented the first extensive study of self disclosure in marital relationships in her book, bluecollar marriage 1962. Self disclosure is an act of intimacy and serves as a maintenance strategy, and yet very little prior research has examined self disclosure within relationships with data collected multiple times over an extended period of time and from both part. Self disclosure involves sharing personal information with someone else. Selfdisclosure plays a critical role in the development of a romantic relationship. Most researchers who explore adults relationships agree with sullivan that intimacy and self disclosure are closely related and have positive effects on individuals. The editors of the present volume were also privileged to collaborate on an earlier book, intimacy, also published by plenum press. Anonymity, intimacy and selfdisclosure in social media.
Oct 18, 2012 relationships and self disclosure after reading the article can we talk. Pdf culture and sexual selfdisclosure in intimate relationships. Consistent selfdisclosure is vital in many intimate interpersonal relationships. Selfdisclosure and starting a close relationship routledge. The critical role of communication in intimate relationships is given emphasis. Finally, intimacy is acquired and maintained by communications between one another that involve self disclosure, acceptance, acknowledgment, and understanding. What is emotional intelligence these factors include self awareness, self esteem, empathy, and they add up to different ways of being intelligent known as emotional intelligence. Self disclosure is a remarkably complex communication process that has a powerful impact on how our relationships with others form, progress, and endure. Novel findings on gender differences in self disclosure. Communication, intimacy, and close relationships sciencedirect.
Irwin altman and dalmas taylor describe this progression from superficial to intimate levels of communication in social penetration theory, which is often called the onion theory because the model looks like an onion and involves layers that are peeled away. Social penetration theory states that the development of a relationship is closely linked to systematic changes in communication. Relationships generally begin with the exchange of superficial information and gradually move on to more meaningful conversations. Unless you are willing to share who you are with your partner, you will never be truly intimate with them.
The present study examined the association between self disclosure and intimacy in the context of facebook. Superficial selfdisclosure, often in the form of small talk, is key in initiating relationships that then move onto more personal levels of selfdisclosure. Intimacy and selfdisclosure in friendships chapter 3. Email your librarian or administrator to recommend adding this book to your organisations collection. With longitudinal data collected from both partners in young adult dating couples, we examined how self disclosure is associated with both. Discuss the process of selfdisclosure, including how we make decisions about. More generally, sullivan assumed that intimate friendships involving frequent self disclosure have positive effects on childrens social development. By selfdisclosing andor reciprocating this act of information sharing, the breath and depth increase, and more intimate relationships can start. Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages, i believe that i can somewhat relate to it. Although an intimate relationship is commonly a sexual relationship, it may also be a nonsexual relationship involving family, friends, or acquaintances.
Self disclosure definition self disclosure refers to the process of revealing personal, intimate information about oneself to others. Talking through problems is a great way to come to a compromise with your loved one. Theory, research, and therapy ebook written by valerian j. An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Jul 18, 2019 self disclosure in intimate relationships. Selfdisclosure is not always a risky or vulnerable action. Selfdisclosure is a remarkably complex communication process that has a powerful impact on how our relationships with others form, progress, and endure.
Understanding self disclosure in intimate relationships social penetration theory. May 30, 2015 how self disclosure affects people and their relationships. In order to be able to open yourself completely to your partner, you need to be able to trust that they will honor and re. Hendrick texas tech university selfdisclosure is an act of intimacy and serves as a maintenance strategy, and yet very little prior research has examined selfdisclosure.
Invisible chains is a hopeful book that shows a way out of coercive control relationships and illustrates the promise of healing and recovery. Yet, there is surprisingly little research on this topic compared to the voluminous research that exists on self disclosure in general. Without it, tension may be felt by one of the participants or they may even feel that the other is withholding information. Intimate feelings are deeply associated with positive emotions of relationships. Associations with individual and relationship characteristics over time. One of the best ways to deal with the ups and downs in relationships is to go to couples therapy. Telling a classmate your major or your hometown during the first week of school carries relatively little risk but can build into a friendship that lasts beyond the class.
Effects of selfdisclosure on relational intimacy in facebook. Self disclosure is considered a key aspect of developing closeness and intimacy with others, including friends, romantic partners, and family members. When you risk vulnerability with someone else and reveal yourself a bit more intimately, it can be helpful to observe whether your friend matches your dive or not. Depriving yourself of the richness of intimate and loving relationships, by constantly hiding from others, leaves you feeling alienated from yourself. Comprised of seven chapters, this book begins with a discussion on the role of selfdisclosure in intimate relationships as well. Culture and sexual selfdisclosure in intimate relationships 228 preferences, which is comprised of six items, including such statements as. How selfdisclosure affects people and their relationships. You should move self disclosure gradually dont disclose too much, can scare the personyou save intimate self disclosure for intimate relationships when someone is really close to you, their odds of rejecting or blackmailing you are way less you trust them enough to share. Associations with individual and relationship characteristics over time susan sprecher illinois state university susan s. His most recent book with kathryn greene, gust yep, and sandra petronio is, privacy and disclosure of hiv in interpersonal relationship.
Self disclosure, intimacy and communication in families shirley j. Download citation selfdisclosure in intimate relationships. In the realm of psychology and relationships, selfdisclosure is a. The focus of the study is exploratory and relates variables as they influence characteristic communication patterns, primarily within husbandwife. Comprised of seven chapters, this book begins with a discussion on the role of selfdisclosure in intimate relationships as well as the risks that individuals incur when they selfdisclose. Through self disclosure, two individuals get to know one another. Selfdisclosure and interpersonal communication 2012 book. Selfdisclosure is sometimes used to maintain the integrity of a relationship. Self disclosure is an act of intimacy and serves as a maintenance strategy, and yet very little prior research has examined self disclosure within relationships with data collected multiple times over an extended period of time and from both partners. Self disclosure is an act of intimacy and serves as a maintenance strategy, and yet very little prior research has examined self disclosure within relationships with data collected multiple times. The next chapter presents a cognitive interaction model of the nature of intimacy and intimate relationships within the context of cognitivesocial learning. The process was originally defined as telling others about the self. How selfdisclosure affects relationships verywell mind. Selfdisclosure and interpersonal communication social.
Edleson, phd, dean and professor, school of social. How we share, what we share, and when we share are just a few of the factors that can influence whether our selfdisclosure. Self disclosure, gender, and communication self disclosure, gender, and communication self disclosure is the ability of oneself to open up to another person and express their emotions, thoughts and also share personal information. Self disclosure is a process of communication by which one person reveals information about themself to another. Since then, an extensive amount of information about disclosure has been produced, leading to significant shifts in the way we think about this phenomenon derlega et al.
Removing your mask dr edward hoffman the extent to which were able to reveal ourselves to other people, has important consequences for our social relationships and happinessand possibly even our physical health as well. Disclosure as a phenomenon was first investigated by sidney jourard 1971. When we use the term self disclosure in this chapter, we do not refer only to verbal content, but also to nonverbal expressivity e. Selfdisclosure in personal relationships chapter 22 the.
Be aware of the dance in matching in selfdisclosure. Intimate familiararity with your partner in life is a key characteristic of successful longterm relationships. Improve your selfdisclosure skills marriage preparation. Discover what selfdisclosure is, plus find out about the profound impact that it can. Early evidence that anonymity increases selfdisclosure is the stranger on a train phenomenon 47 where people may selfdisclose quite intimately to fellow passengers on a train. Selfdisclosure in romantic relationships pairedlife. Self disclosure, intimacy and communication in families. The data on divorce lead us to conclude that intimate relationships have been failing apart for the last 20 years or so. By the end of this chapter you will understand what is meant by self disclosure and appreciate how this skill can be used appropriately in your relationships with clients and colleagues. A study as hypothesized, positive associations were found between self disclosure and the individual characteristics of self esteem, relationship esteem confidence as an intimate partner, and responsiveness and satisfaction. Gilbert self disclosure communication, as it relates to the development of intimacy in human relationships is investigated.
The dos and donts of selfdisclosure in romantic relationships. A study of the closeness of relationships relationships are essential to an individuals general satisfaction with life. Chapter 4 intimate relationships and communication quizlet. Revealing your motives, intentions, goals, values, and emotions, can increase liking and. Relationship satisfaction depends on selfdisclosure psychology. Consistent self disclosure is vital in many intimate interpersonal relationships.
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